Struggling with relationships with others and with yourself?

Many people struggle to understand 'who am I' and have unstable relationships. They will struggle with unhealthy or unstable relationships.

Struggling with relationships with others and with yourself?

Who Am I?

There are many people who struggle to understand ‘who am I’ and have unstable relationships. Or struggle to understand why they react the way they do to certain situations. They will struggle with unhealthy or unstable relationships. Others will struggle to be able to define them. People are good at putting labels on others in order to find a convenient way to think about that person. I often hear clients talking about how others have judged them. Or somebody found out something about them, changed how they treated them. There are numerous quizzes that people can take to find out if they are a ‘Samantha or a Carrie’ or an introvert or extravert. Are you an optimist or a pessimist? What are your personality traits? Who am I?

The reality is that people are more complex than that. An ‘extroverted introvert’ is how I have often described myself. I hear other people also creating their own categories that they believe better describe them. I also have clients who do not have any idea who they are or how they appear to others. For people who have an unclear or shifting self-image, there are ways to gain insight and understanding into who you are.

Do I have unstable relationships?

Do you identify with any of the following statements?

  • My emotions change very quickly, and I often experience extreme sadness, anxiety, and anger.
  • I often feel like an empty shell I worry about people leaving or abandoning me.
  • The way I feel about the people in my life can dramatically change from one moment to the next—and I don’t always understand why.
  • I often do things that I know are dangerous or unhealthy, such as driving recklessly, having unsafe sex, binge drinking, using drugs, or going on spending sprees.
  • I’ve attempted to hurt myself, engaged in self-harm behaviors such as cutting or threatened suicide.
  • When I’m feeling insecure in a relationship, I tend to lash out and reject people around me or make impulsive gestures to keep the other person close.
  • Most of my intimate relationships are intense but like a rollercoaster.

If you relate to several items on the list above, you may also experience difficulty concentrating or remembering things, eating problems, depression, and/or anxiety. These are often associated with Borderline Personality Disorder. Click here to take an online test for Borderline Personality Disorder to find out more.

There is help!!!

There are ways to learn how to manage those feelings, have better relationships with others, gain insight and understanding of who you are and learn to improve memory, concentration and be more present.

I can help you learn how to manage your symptoms and gain new skills. Please feel free to contact DArT Counseling Services for a free consultation. 

Leave a Comment